Possibilities are endless. This is why understanding anyone is dificult. Psychological analysis of situations is thus difficult in terms of reaching a conclusion, especially difficult when you want to understand personal relations.
People like to keep their options open. Yeah multi-timing does not come across as bad as cheating for many. Sometimes ones partner is open to this sometimes not. I feel people should discuss with their partners about the same and if their partner doesn’t like it either break the existing relation or they should not venture into multi-timing. Logical right? Of course people are too coward to implement such logic.
A friend of mine dated a girl for few days. At first she exposed her vulnerabilites to him making him feel that he is the guy. But later she also dated another guy. Now the relation is on and off. No clear indications of where it’s headed. opposite of my condition. You can see why my friend must be feeling that ‘women are impossible to understand’. It appears clear from the way described that the lady should be more discreet.
Is my friend sure of his feelings? May be sometimes he is in a romantic mood and feels her ways to be suggestive of love and sometimes he sees it rationally as if she is not interested. As the relationship between them is not confirmed he can’t confront. Moreover relationships emerging in workplace are more difficult to handle. at least one should try to date a person from outside the project.
We feel people love us when we want to see that they love us. Sometimes one can be really objective and see through the foggy situation. But sometimes our emotions bring a large divide between reality and our perception. Thus one has to take a third-party recommendation sometimes. But when there is no such scope of being present in the environement or getting to talk to both sides situation can’t be fairly resolved. There psychology provides solutions based on probable theories.
If you look at it most of the social sciences are exaplained with some probabilites only. The regressions back up the theory with correlations which are never expalining 100% leave alone the chance of finding cause. Thus one goes for the best shot. just that the probability is better than gut-feeling sicne the probabilities might have been tested on field many times. Thus one avoids the risk of not knowing the preciseness of probability of the event (explained by social science vs gut feeling).
This paragraph above is to reinforce my belief in psychology and my regular observations and interest to understand people in terms of tehir thought and behaviour.
