Some people say that they don’t like to judge people.
But yes they can rank people according to their preference of music.
They can rank people according to their preference of lifestyle, food habits, dressing sense and almost anything social.
Yeah social because I never heard anyone ranking people on the way they masturbate. Some might be able to do the same, but thank dog I never met them.
Yeah they will say they are not judgmental but then again anyone listening to backstreet boys is not respectable enough. They can’t respect someone’s decision or choice in life to stay back, relax and have fun.
Sometimes they themselves can’t tell you the criteria for classification/ranking. Sorry make that most of the times.
But when I am myself vomiting this bitterness against such people am I not myself being included in this league of ‘them’. I feel the moment I decide that someone’s thinking is wrong and mine is right I am being prejudiced. The moment they think their thinking is better than someone else’s, they are… Yeah the context being they are judging and ranking someone’s choice for oneself.
By judging I mean to form critical opinion about someone or to be exact about someone’s choice in this text. By prejudice I mean that you tend to be partial or biased by such judgmental view.
If I wanted to like a particular band or wanted to stay back and enjoy my life and wanted to point out my viewpoint why should they judge me while declaring that they are not judgmental? My choice might be based on various things I experienced in my life at different stages. They obviously can’t step in my shoes and view my choices the way I do, hence they are not qualified enough to judge me. Hypocrites!
The perception of good and bad are relative. There is very thin line. There is somehow a vague definition of good and bad prevalent among most of the people which all should accept being social animals. But at individual level we might choose to differ till we don’t actually hurt someone with our choices. Hence what is bad to me might be good to you. But the expectation to blend in and to like the cool thing in society will not end abruptly. But no trend will remain cool if everyone follows it. The societal structure itself encourages such divide to be created and waves of trends to come. Come on! We buy the marketing schemes we ourselves devise. Obviously this makes the society active and sustainable. But the fast paced life we live now makes it difficult for many to catch up with the ultra-recent in thing. Many may not choose to do so because they do not want to. But the league of lovers of old is different. If the old is still venerated by many and has a cult following it is not derogatory to follow. But if the in thing is someway ridiculing the old then one is expected to leave the old trend.
Declaring being non-judgmental may be the new in thing. Being in the fast pace as everyone is in life right now may be the expected way to go in general. But shouldn’t it be in thing to tolerate these odd decisions. Yeah, being different always is not cool. But I guess when one declares oneself as non-judgemental type they should try to respect every decision of every person. But that is inertness.
Again whom am I kidding? Karma, moksha too are marketed. So is good deed (yeah carbon credits almost do that: Fuck the environment and buy carbon credits with the money earned!!)!
But apart from those high funda philosophies I come back to reality again. Our society has incrementally built itself (yep, we are the society and we built it ourselves) over time. Obviously it being us, it tried to make itself self-sustainable. Was there any other way, I don’t know? Is it wrong? I don’t want to judge that. :)
Socially it will be wrong to expect that the hypocrites will change or the laid backs will come to forefront. We all can’t be standing on the same line! Our society simply does not have that much space. We need structure. Being huge and complex it got to be non-linear. Hence we see many instances of hierarchies, rankings in society. Even expecting people to respect someone else’s personal decision is absurd. Because one will like to take pride in proving that s/he can make better choice than someone else in the same scenario. This perception of his/her is limited by who all s/he considers world. Our definition of emotion is relative this way. Hence searching for inertness in everyone is impossible. Hence there will be no solution to the problem I seemingly had at start. Now it is almost invalid as a problem too. :)
This conclusion above might be a judgmental view I am creating of the human society at large. Thus I cannot make myself completely disparate in such situation. Hence now I have nothing against no one.
PS: I feel consumerism is one of the accelerators for the relative view of emotions and choices. Moreover I like inertness more because not just that you are not judging others, but also you are not affected by others’ judgement. But like all theories or views this too has limitation. Yes, I believe nothing is perfect and cannot be.
PS2: I am confused if eunuchs are referred as s/he. Any reference here to any social being here is beyond gender.
